Relationships Book Notes

Daring Greatly

Daring Greatly by Brene Brown

RATING: 10/10…READ: August 20, 2013

The go-to book on learning how to be more vulnerable and deal with shame. Yes, it’s self-helpy, but also a book that cut deep to the heart of my problems in life and the defensive mechanisms I use. A great book for dealing with emotional insecurity.

Brave New World

Brave New World by Aldous Huxley

RATING: 9/10…READ: August 29, 2012

Aldous Huxley’s classic work on the Dystopian future of the world. Written in 1932, his predictions from Prescription Drugs, Genetic Engineering, and the Loss of Reading books still makes this novel relevant today.

Models

Models by Mark Manson

RATING: 9/10…READ: November 20, 2012

A men’s self development guide. From defining your values, pursuing a career, dating, sex, and more, Models explores male masculinity today, post consumer and PUA culture.

Mating in Captivity

Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel

RATING: 8/10…READ: February 20, 2013

Mating in Captivity explores one sexual relationship to themselves and within a relationship. Explores sex as separate from intimacy and covers erotic intelligence. A very provocative book with the changing attitudes about sexuality.

Sex at Dawn

Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan

RATING: 8/10…READ: May 16, 2013

Sex at Dawn explores the evolution of sexuality from prehistoric times to the present. Changed how I think about relationships, monogamy, and the devastating effects of culture on sexuality, mainly the repression of female sexuality. Helped reduce shame about my natural sexual tendencies. Highly recommended.

Digital Vertigo

Digital Vertigo by Andrew Keen

RATING: 8/10…READ: June 1, 2012

While many are championing the social media revolution, Andrew Keen urges us to take a step back and remove the blinders. Instead of connecting us, Social Media he argues is dividing us and making us more lonely–observers in a mob, rather than active participants. It is a book that cuts through all the Silicon Valley BS of the social economy being the new future.

You Are Not a Gadget

You Are Not a Gadget by Jaron Lanier

RATING: 8/10…READ: August 2, 2011

A humanistic perspective on the direction technology is taking us & what we can do about it. Lanier rejects the singularity argument by prominent technologist such as Kevin Kelly; this work is a contrarian view to such thoughts. A great book that not only dissects our problems, but offers solutions as well.

Player Piano

Player Piano by Kurt Vonnegut

RATING: 8/10…READ: September 4, 2013

A dystopian novel where the ruling class is engineers and society is automated by machines. A great book to examine the extent of which technology makes life easier (automation) but also less human.

Alone Together

Alone Together by Sherry Turkle

RATING: 7/10…READ: July 17, 2011

An examination of our social relationship to technology from robotics to social networking; More of a description of our relationship with technology than a prescription. While I agree with the author’s premise that we are becoming “Alone Together,” the book could easily be cut down as it contains too many repetitive case studies.

No More Mr. Nice Guy

No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert A. Glover

RATING: 7/10…READ: May 2, 2011

A book about becoming a MAN. It breaks down “nice guy” tendencies and how you can become the best MAN you ought to be. If you like Fight Club, you’ll appreciate this book.

The Charisma Myth

The Charisma Myth by Olivia Fox Cabane

RATING: 7/10…READ: May 28, 2013

A solid guide to What Charisma is, how to cultivate it, and why it’s important. Not just a douchey book of manipulative tactics, but delves deep into the psyche of people and how to change the negative self-scripts you have going on. Backed by research.

The Choice Effect

The Choice Effect by Amalia Gibbon, Lara Vogel, Claire A. Williams

RATING: 7/10…READ: September 12, 2012

Explores the mindset of those in their 20s facing indecision in their relationships and careers. The book focuses specifically on women, but I found it very relevant to men as well. Many case studies of women who put aside meaningful intimate relationships in favor of lots of friends, getting ahead in their career, and exotic travel…yet many are still unhappy.

How to Win Friends and Influence People

How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie

RATING: 7/10…READ: October 9, 2009

An essential book in your library for everyday social interactions and basic social etiquette.

Book of Pook

The Book of Pook by Pook

RATING: 7/10…READ: March 15, 2011

While the Pickup Industry began on manipulative tactics and techniques, the Book of Pook’s focus was on yourself and your own masculinity. Part Male Self Development Guide / Part Philosophy, this book is a collection of posts from an anonymous Pook on So Sauve forum.

Quiet The Power of Introverts

Quiet the Power of Introverts

RATING: 7/10…READ: May 1, 2012

“Quiet” breaks down the misconceptions of introverts and emphasizes the strengths that introverts bring to the world without apologizing for being one. Besides the psychology behind introversion, Quiet provides strategies for work, jobs, social life, and spending your free time. A must read if you are an introvert.

The Undefeated Mind

The Undefeated Mind by Alex Lickerman

RATING: 7/10…READ: December 2, 2012

Written by a Therapist, this book utilizes principles in Nichiren Buddhism & common therapy principles for dealing with anxiety and fear. Many common principles if you’ve read other self-help books. I’ve found myself skimming several chapters. I’ve found the author’s personal experience the most helpful of all advice in the book.

Love Yourself

Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It by Kamal Ravikant

RATING: 7/10…READ: April 25, 2013

A short read on chilling the fuck out and loving yourself. With all the self help platitudes and exercises, this book is quick and simple…what would you do, how would you act if you loved yourself?

The Gifts of Imperfection

The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown

RATING: 7/10…READ: January 1, 2012

I’ll admit, I am a sucker for these type of “self-help” books. I first heard of Rene Brown after her inspiring TED talk and this book is an extension of that. It’s a book that will teach you to accept your vulnerabilities whether you are a perfectionist, always trying to playing it cool, or are depressed. A very enjoyable uplifting read.